Intrusive thoughts show up for every one. They come in many shapes and forms but what is most important is not what the thoughts are but how they impact us. If you often have thoughts that disturb you, this is an episode for you.

Episode Notes

It’s not the thought that counts! It’s how we react to the thought that we just had.

As humans we have the tendency to attach to certain thoughts more so than others. While our automatic thinking goes about in our day to day we end up with some thoughts that get our attention.

After we hear them or see them in our mind, we often create a label for it. We judge it! We add meaning to it. We say, that was a bad thought!

That’s where the dance begins, but how can you end the dance with grace?

To find out, listen to this episode.

0:08 Story about Leo Tolstoy
0:44 Intro
0:57 Proverb: Idle man’s mind is the devils workshop
1:19 What are intrusive thoughts
1:55 How thoughts work
2:33 Thoughts are real to us
3:28 Where do intrusive thoughts show up?
3:58 What matters is how you react to a thought
4:31 Controlled vs automatic thinking
6:00 How not to deal with intrusive thoughts
8:22 How to manage intrusive thoughts
9:48 Mindfulness: Learn to observe without judgement
10:13 No such thing as a bad thought – let go of labeling
10:54 Summarise dealing with intrusive thoughts
11:27 Fall in love with Giraffes
12:04 Giraffes reflection
13:00 Outro


There’s a story out there about Leo Tolstoy when he was a little boy.

Apparently, when he was a little boy, his brother asked him to sit in the corner, and to do his best to not try and think of a white bear. He said, Go to the corner, think of not thinking about a white bear when you succeed, we’ll accept you in our club.

For a little Tolstoy sat there in the corner, trying not to think of a white bear. And of course, the only thing that would kept coming into his mind was the image of the white bear. And he kept coming again and again. And he was unable to deal with that challenge of not thinking of a white bear.

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As a famous proverb says, an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. When our mind is idle, when we’re creating that space, there will be times that thoughts and habits and emotions will come in, which would one want to welcome that is learning to open up doesn’t mean we always have to be occupied with things.

But when those intrusive thoughts come in, is what do we choose to do? What are intrusive thoughts? intrusive thoughts is nothing other than a thought that comes in like any other thought, like any other of the thoughts we have during the day.

But the difference is that it creates a little bit of an emotional reaction. It’s something that it’s a bit annoying us. And it makes us think, why did I think this, but it’s not the thought itself that creates the problem.

That’s how we feel about it, when the thought arises, is how we actually managed to deal with that thought, what is it that we do and how do we react. But before we get into that, it’s a good idea to understand how thoughts and emotions work, understanding that thoughts and emotions, they work as a wave, they have a start, they have a peak, and they have a finish.

They’re both very powerful. They both can make and say things we don’t mean, we don’t want to say but in the moment, they’re very powerful. The same applies for thoughts and emotions.

Understanding this can gives us a perspective of becomes it rises and passes. This is a very important point to keep in mind. Because in our mind, when thoughts arise, we think that this is it. This is the end, we’re in the now we’re in the present. And we’re thinking this is all there is.

Something to keep in mind. This is like thoughts and emotions, very, very true for us, as part of our experience, how we experience them in our own inner world, the 100% of you follow a sequence of logic, even though they might be irrational thoughts. They follow logic, but sometimes these intrusive thoughts, they’re actually one of the thoughts or the common thing to remember is, even though their reality for us, lies, lies, lies, lies.

You have to be able to choose which of the thoughts that we have we actually believe and which ones we need to let go and not believe nothing but phantoms of the brain, things that exist yet they don’t exist things that come within our awareness within our thoughts severe or emotional sphere, yet they vanish.

So they appear and they disappear. Where do they go?

What happens to them? Where do really intrusive thoughts show up for most people? Pretty much it can be about anything and anywhere. Usually, they revolve around shame, secrecy, wanting to commit a crime, body dysmorphia, things about our self worth our self esteem, doubt, depression, feeling suicidal, being jealous about other people, harming others, harming ourselves about addictions, or urges or impulses. You see there create a lot of movement in how we feel about this thoughts.

So it’s not so much the thought that comes in. It’s what happens after the fact. It’s the meaning that we give to the foot. It’s the way we engage to the foot. And of course, we have a choice. The important thing is to remember that we have a choice.

But how do I have a choice if this is an intrusive thought that just drives in and comes into my life? And it makes me feel the way that I feel? Here’s the catch, when we think we have the automatic thinking, and we have control thinking,

if you sit down and try to solve a problem, you’re drilling more into your control thinking. If you try to visualize a situation, you’re drilling into control thinking if you’re calling someone and trying to talk to them and speak to them, the thinking is fast by you are kind of mostly in control thinking.

When we go about our day to day though we also engage into something called automatic thinking and my fulness is key to us into understanding and listening, our automatic thinking and becoming more aware. So this automatic thinking is something that happens to us. We’re constantly having thoughts, myriads of thoughts throughout the day about different topics, but we don’t fuss about them.

So the automatic thinking, it takes place, it’s an event. It’s like someone coming to your door, knocking on your door, sometimes coming into your house. Now, what do you do about that, that is where the choice lies, we don’t really have a choice, what kind of automatic thoughts come in, because they just come in, and when they come in, we have to deal with him.

But we do have a choice with is what we do afterwards. So in like NLP terms, it would be like the meta, what happens after the involuntary thought comes in what happened after the cue comes in? What happens after this thought is creating this unvoluntary thought is creating this involuntary emotion.

So usually, the way we respond to a thought that comes in is that we get annoyed. So it takes us off, and we try to resist. And as Carl Jung used to say, what you resist persists. So by trying to suppress by saying this is off, this is something that I don’t want, this is something that I want to avoid.

This is the thought that I don’t want in my mind, we’re starting to create this obsession towards the thought, we’re starting to create this feeling of shame, this feeling of we want to keep things secret.

And the way this whole concept works is through repetition through rumination through the thought coming in, we make a big deal out of it, and we’ll make a big fuss, our mind remembers that this is something to avoid, in a way, but actually just saying this is important. Remember it, please.

And of course, by that repetition, we magnify that thought, by that emotional reaction, we magnify the thought. And then that thought becomes significant and important to us, in a bizarre way, because really, what we’re trying to say is, I don’t want this.

But what our mind does is like, this is important, we need to keep track of this idea is that we’re trying to control we’re trying to control by pushing by fighting by suppressing, we’re trying to chalk this down.

And the more we try to do that, the more the thought magnifies, a good thing to remember is because something rises up to your consciousness, because something enters your field of consciousness, it doesn’t mean that you necessarily have to believe it, it doesn’t mean that you have to go with it, it doesn’t mean that whatever this thing is asking you to do, we have to go ahead and do it.

There’s so many times in our days with thought come to us we want to call someone want to do something, and we just don’t do it. Some important deadline that comes up, and we just don’t do things that we need to do. In the same way we can let go of those slots, the way that the rise and the try to affect us. We can challenge it. We can challenge whether this is true or not.

Or to what degree Is it true? We can challenge what else could I think, but overall without that sense of controlling without a sense of suppressing fighting and struggling with a thought. When we pick a fight with a thought, a thought or when we try to avoid a thought that thought will persist. When we try and talk with that thought, trying to make sense of it. Thought thought will persist.

What can we do with intrusive thoughts instead, then how can we deal with them Viktor Frankl was a psychiatrist who wrote a book in search of meaning surviving the Holocaust. And part of one of his approaches that he wrote in one of the medical one of the journals, was the paradoxical intention.

What did he set with that was instead of trying to avoid and leave from thoughts, try to go in consciously. And a lot of times in psychology paradoxes were usually we try to avoid I’m not saying engage with the thoughts, but the fact that we try to avoid and run away, Viktor Frankl. Some thought, people who were practicing this paradoxical intention of moving into the thoughts were able to disengage from the thoughts.

Part of it is the fact that we let go of like guilt and shame, and we can talk about it, and we open ourselves, instead of running away from it, we’re running towards it. Another technique to use is distracting yourself by misdirection. This works with everything that we do in life, but specifically with intrusive thoughts. It works very well with kids. Specifically, it works very well with intrusive thoughts.

Because we direct our attention to something else, which means we stopped giving meaning to what happened. We stopped giving meaning to that thought. And by not giving much energy much attention by no magnifying that for doesn’t gain the energy that it needs. So we stay centered, and we focus our attention towards something else.

My favorite technique for dealing with intrusive thoughts comes with being aware and acknowledging things. It’s developing the ability for us to observe what is going on. So we’re observing our thoughts. We practice this with mindfulness, I can practice this every day, when we practice every day, we can apply it on our daily life. The idea is that we’re able to observe our thoughts our thoughts come in.

And we’re also able to suspend judgment, because that’s what happens when we label a thought as being bad. We label it and say, this is a bad thought, this is a thought that makes me uncomfortable. This is a thought I don’t want to have. We don’t go like that explicitly to say that. But our reaction to it, that’s what it implies.

So the first thing is being aware. But at the same time, we don’t want to get stuck into Oh, my goodness, did I just have that thought again? No, on the contrary, we want to be aware, we want to let go of judgment by creating acceptance, and realizing that this thought just came into my consciousness.

And then we want to direct our attention to something else. To summarize, again, how to deal with intrusive thoughts, acknowledge the thought as it came up, accept the fact that this thought occurred within your consciousness, whether it’s from you or not, it doesn’t really matter. Just think this thought came within my consciousness, and then direct your attention to something else? If you want a question to think about, he’s like, what can I focus on? Now? Where can I move my attention?

Now, this is creating the intention of opening up your mind and allowing your mind to come with something else. Once was a man who was out and about, and he was afraid of the lions, he would see the lions, he would see them from far away, and he would really be absorbed by them. It was creating huge fear for him to go and deal with those lions or be around them or know that they’re out there.

And the more he thought about the lions, the more lines you saw, and the more of those lions you saw, the more that got into the way until someone suggested that instead of thinking of the lions, start obsessing with giraffes or

something along those lines of the story, but it really hit home. To me when I heard it. I thought, this is a brilliant story, because it creates the notion that when something is coming away, when something keeps coming and getting our attention, and we magnified and we make it important, when we don’t want it to be important. We start to fight and struggle, all the things that we talked about.

But instead of doing that, we focus our attention somewhere else if we get fascinated with giraffes, in our personal consciousness in our personal existence, most of the things those intrusive thoughts or whatever other occasions come in, they usually tend to find our way they fade away because where we put our attention is where energy goes. And where energy goes is where the things that happened within us.

We magnify keeping that concept important. Just remember, when in doubt, falling off hrs. I’m here to help you heal, change and grow. If there’s anything that resonated with you or something that you need help with.

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